Thursday, March 31, 2011
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Sunday, March 27, 2011
Friday, March 25, 2011
媽咪教model要唔望鏡頭，望遠D
Chester learned what's gravity, he will look down to find his toy if he drops it. His favorite game is to drop his toy and wait for mommy or Haley to pick it up for him.
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Monday, March 21, 2011
Poor little Haley
Haley had a fever since Saturday morning, the highest temperature was 103.8. She was still active and acting normal. We found rashes all over her body after the fever's gone. We called the nurse hotline and found out that it is common for 6 months - 3 years old child to have rashes after a high fever. Just like how the nurse describes, the rashes should go away after 3 days. We didn't go anywhere but stay home in the last three days. Haley became so cranky and wanted to "stick" to mommy all the time. Look at her eyes, they were swollen and red due to all the crying. Oh! My poor little Haley!
Sunday, March 20, 2011
Saturday, March 19, 2011
Haley's first dental visit
Our whole family is going for dental check this morning. All 3 of us has no cavity, but mommy has to go back to remove her wisdom tooth. Haley has high temperature today but she still behaves very well during the whole process. She sat still to complete the x-ray and cleaning. Good job, Haley! I'm proud of u!
Friday, March 18, 2011
New fence in our backyard
Our new neighbor insisted to build a new fence at the backyard, so we just share half of the cost for it!
Old fence was taken down
New fence
Old fence was taken down
New fence
為食天王Chester
Chester is so determined to taste the apple. He's only 4.5 month old. My original plan is to start solid food when he's 5.5 month old, maybe now I may start at 5 month. It's hilarious!
Thursday, March 17, 2011
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Haley is a good little helper
Haley is taking up another house chore, she will help to pass out chopsticks during dinner time. Not only that, she is very eager to help taking care of Chester. When Chester cries, she run to him and shakes the rattle to calm Chester. She will say "It's ok! 細佬唔好喊!" Sometimes, Haley calls Chester "Drama King". When Chester drools, she will use his bib to wipe it for him. She insists to kiss him good morning and help to get diapers for him, but she will choose diaper that has Cookie Monster pattern every time. Haley will wait quietly in her room, playing puzzle while I told her that I have to nurse Chester. If I don't go to her after a while, she will come look for me, and if I am not done with Chester, she will close my door and go back to her room to wait. So far I don't see any jealousy from Haley toward Chester; she really loves him! She is the best sister Chester can ever have.
Side note: Haley can zip up her jacket today all by herself. Yeah!
Haley acts silly to make Chester laughs
Side note: Haley can zip up her jacket today all by herself. Yeah!
Haley acts silly to make Chester laughs
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Finding preschool for Haley
Despite how much I want to keep Haley at home with me, it's finally time to start looking for a preschool for Haley in the coming September. This is not an easy task at all, going to the preschool faire, searching online, reading parents' reviews and school visits. We plan to send her to school two days a week at the beginning. Choosing between private or community, faith-based or not, Montessori or other learning method... so many choices to make. Owen and I have decided for Haley not to stress on academic but focus on personality development. The most important for her early years of schooling should be being happy and fun to learn. After speaking to couple teachers, Haley is advance in some areas such as letter recognition. We never worried about her ability to learn, but we would like her to be more outgoing. At her age, it is normal that she does parallel play with other kids, however, we want to make sure she learns the skills to communicate with others.
Due to the recent educational policy changes, the new cutoff date for preschooler to enter kindergarten may change to November 1 next year, Haley will have to stay one more year before she can attend kindergarten. This means she will attend kindergarten at age 6. Owen mainly relies on my decision on this as most school visits are done during weekdays when he's at work. I tried to sum up the pros and cons on each school so I can get him involved as much as he can. Of course I have also taken the cost into consideration, but Owen has assured me that it is not an issue and try to select a good match for Haley. I prayed to God for His guidance in making this important decision. As the bible says God counts the number of hair on our heads (Luke 12:6-7). That is the level of attention He will pay to. He will make sure every details in our lives are well taken of! He knows what's the best for us.
Due to the recent educational policy changes, the new cutoff date for preschooler to enter kindergarten may change to November 1 next year, Haley will have to stay one more year before she can attend kindergarten. This means she will attend kindergarten at age 6. Owen mainly relies on my decision on this as most school visits are done during weekdays when he's at work. I tried to sum up the pros and cons on each school so I can get him involved as much as he can. Of course I have also taken the cost into consideration, but Owen has assured me that it is not an issue and try to select a good match for Haley. I prayed to God for His guidance in making this important decision. As the bible says God counts the number of hair on our heads (Luke 12:6-7). That is the level of attention He will pay to. He will make sure every details in our lives are well taken of! He knows what's the best for us.
Haley & her new bike
Daddy is teaching Haley how to ride her new bike
Haley is so smart on this picture
She dropped her bike as soon as she saw the playground in the front
Trust between daddy & Haley
Love sliding
Saturday, March 12, 2011
解讀婚姻的七年之癢
This coming year is Owen & my seventh year wedding anniversary, we brought up the topic of "Seven Year Itch" in our conversation. I told him that I am sure I will not get itch no matter how many years I married him. He replied and said that he married me for life, not for any number of years. He thinks he is sweet talking...but I think it's very "老套". So I went online to get the definition of 七年之癢.
解讀：婚姻的七年之癢
新華網江蘇頻道 心靈視窗
www.JSxinhuanet.com
2005-06-29 15:42:30
來源: 人民網
結婚久了，新鮮感喪失。于是，情感的“疲憊”或厭倦使婚姻進入了“瓶頸”，如果無法選擇有效通過這一“瓶頸”的方法，婚姻就會終結。“七年之癢”是個舶來詞，意思是說許多事情發展到第七年就會不以人的意志出現一些問題，婚姻當然也不例外。結婚久了，新鮮感喪失。從充滿浪漫的戀愛到實實在在的婚姻，在平淡的朝夕相處中，彼此太熟悉了，戀愛時掩飾的缺點或雙方在理念上的不同此時都已經充分地暴露出來。于是，情感的“疲憊”或厭倦使婚姻進入了“瓶頸”，如果無法選擇有效的方法通過這一“瓶頸”，婚姻就會終結。
從人的成長角度來講，大多數人是在婚姻中實現人自身的成長。戀愛的時候對自己的認識和把握還不清楚，更不知道自己需要什麼樣的配偶。隨著婚齡的增加，尤其是許多家庭撫育幼兒之後，育兒任務的繁重和教育理念的差距，使婚姻中長期積累的矛盾慢慢凸顯。加之雙方人生發展軌跡的不同，造成實力的懸殊和共同語言的減少。婚姻專家指出，最大的離婚理由，不是婚外情，而是夫婦二人不能配合，不能再生活在一起。從溝通的方式來講，中國有句俗話“熟人不講理”，夫妻間的關係太熟了，往往忽略配偶的需要，不再選擇表達的方式，在表露自己情感的時候不加掩飾，很多情況下會傷及對方。孩子出生之後，母親的情感全部遷移到孩子身上，冷漠成了雙方情感的症結，彼此的負性情緒相互渲染，使家庭氛圍緊張。
那麼，很自然地，心理學家們就提出了避免“七年之癢”的一些策略：婚前預防。
據權威部門統計，出現問題的婚姻中，當初草率結合的比例很大。在戀愛的時候保持較為清醒的頭腦，如果可能的話多聽聽周圍朋友的意見，如果能夠得到婚姻專家的指導就會使婚姻增加理性的成分。澄清自己的一些想法和理念，用理性的目光對待未來的婚姻生活。
奉獻理念。不要挑剔對方，不要希冀重新塑造對方。而應常常自問：我能夠給對方帶來什麼───無憂的物質生活？充實的精神食糧？安全感、幸福感？日常生活中發自內心地為對方做些什麼，哪怕是最小的事情，一個擁抱，一個笑容，一個親吻，讓對方體會到溫情。
留下空間。許多婚姻在束縛與反束縛中走向滅亡，于是許多人提出要給對方留有空間。其實應該先給自己留有空間，在婚外保持正常的朋友圈子，不要將婚姻作為自己唯一的精神寄托。在交往中不斷提升自己的人生智慧，不斷調整自己，適應婚姻。
調整期待。過高的期待會與現實形成反差，造成雙方的壓力。配偶不一定是你結識的異性中最好的最優秀的，但可能是最適合你的，這就足夠了。
選擇離婚。離婚並不像想象的那樣可怕。如果雙方都認定是錯誤的婚姻，離婚或許是最明智的選擇。而離婚之後仍不能好好地反思自己，依然不明確自己到底需要什麼的話，那才真正可怕。我們經常看到第一次離婚之後，對于結婚和離婚都不太重視了的人，婚姻進入了不穩定狀態，整個人生就出現了巨大的扭曲。
婚姻不是簡單的七年之癢，其實許多婚姻，婚齡達到一定階段都會出現問題。尤其是在目前彰顯個性的時代，誰都不願再委屈自己，離婚呈現新的特點：婚齡越來越短，離婚率越來越高。其實，每個人就像一本書，再好的書，讀第一遍時的激動、新鮮和懸念在以後讀時都會淡化，自己要不斷注入新的內容，使人常讀常新。用自己的智慧去營造愛的氛圍，將婚姻進行到底。
解讀：婚姻的七年之癢
新華網江蘇頻道 心靈視窗
www.JSxinhuanet.com
2005-06-29 15:42:30
來源: 人民網
結婚久了，新鮮感喪失。于是，情感的“疲憊”或厭倦使婚姻進入了“瓶頸”，如果無法選擇有效通過這一“瓶頸”的方法，婚姻就會終結。“七年之癢”是個舶來詞，意思是說許多事情發展到第七年就會不以人的意志出現一些問題，婚姻當然也不例外。結婚久了，新鮮感喪失。從充滿浪漫的戀愛到實實在在的婚姻，在平淡的朝夕相處中，彼此太熟悉了，戀愛時掩飾的缺點或雙方在理念上的不同此時都已經充分地暴露出來。于是，情感的“疲憊”或厭倦使婚姻進入了“瓶頸”，如果無法選擇有效的方法通過這一“瓶頸”，婚姻就會終結。
從人的成長角度來講，大多數人是在婚姻中實現人自身的成長。戀愛的時候對自己的認識和把握還不清楚，更不知道自己需要什麼樣的配偶。隨著婚齡的增加，尤其是許多家庭撫育幼兒之後，育兒任務的繁重和教育理念的差距，使婚姻中長期積累的矛盾慢慢凸顯。加之雙方人生發展軌跡的不同，造成實力的懸殊和共同語言的減少。婚姻專家指出，最大的離婚理由，不是婚外情，而是夫婦二人不能配合，不能再生活在一起。從溝通的方式來講，中國有句俗話“熟人不講理”，夫妻間的關係太熟了，往往忽略配偶的需要，不再選擇表達的方式，在表露自己情感的時候不加掩飾，很多情況下會傷及對方。孩子出生之後，母親的情感全部遷移到孩子身上，冷漠成了雙方情感的症結，彼此的負性情緒相互渲染，使家庭氛圍緊張。
那麼，很自然地，心理學家們就提出了避免“七年之癢”的一些策略：婚前預防。
據權威部門統計，出現問題的婚姻中，當初草率結合的比例很大。在戀愛的時候保持較為清醒的頭腦，如果可能的話多聽聽周圍朋友的意見，如果能夠得到婚姻專家的指導就會使婚姻增加理性的成分。澄清自己的一些想法和理念，用理性的目光對待未來的婚姻生活。
奉獻理念。不要挑剔對方，不要希冀重新塑造對方。而應常常自問：我能夠給對方帶來什麼───無憂的物質生活？充實的精神食糧？安全感、幸福感？日常生活中發自內心地為對方做些什麼，哪怕是最小的事情，一個擁抱，一個笑容，一個親吻，讓對方體會到溫情。
留下空間。許多婚姻在束縛與反束縛中走向滅亡，于是許多人提出要給對方留有空間。其實應該先給自己留有空間，在婚外保持正常的朋友圈子，不要將婚姻作為自己唯一的精神寄托。在交往中不斷提升自己的人生智慧，不斷調整自己，適應婚姻。
調整期待。過高的期待會與現實形成反差，造成雙方的壓力。配偶不一定是你結識的異性中最好的最優秀的，但可能是最適合你的，這就足夠了。
選擇離婚。離婚並不像想象的那樣可怕。如果雙方都認定是錯誤的婚姻，離婚或許是最明智的選擇。而離婚之後仍不能好好地反思自己，依然不明確自己到底需要什麼的話，那才真正可怕。我們經常看到第一次離婚之後，對于結婚和離婚都不太重視了的人，婚姻進入了不穩定狀態，整個人生就出現了巨大的扭曲。
婚姻不是簡單的七年之癢，其實許多婚姻，婚齡達到一定階段都會出現問題。尤其是在目前彰顯個性的時代，誰都不願再委屈自己，離婚呈現新的特點：婚齡越來越短，離婚率越來越高。其實，每個人就像一本書，再好的書，讀第一遍時的激動、新鮮和懸念在以後讀時都會淡化，自己要不斷注入新的內容，使人常讀常新。用自己的智慧去營造愛的氛圍，將婚姻進行到底。
Friday, March 11, 2011
Wii bowling
After her first experience playing bowling in Reno, we dig out the Wii game and have her bowl at home too. Haley loves bowling!
Thursday, March 10, 2011
The magic song
Chester's favorite song is Twinkle Twinkle Little Star. Whenever he gets fussy, he will stop crying instantly if I sing the Twinkle Twinkle Little Star. It has to be "me" who sing the song and it has to be the exact lyric. It's just magical how he would change from a crying face to a happy face in no time. I love to be his magician.
It's been so long...
Taking care of two kids is not easy at all. My world has been overwhelmed by both of them. I really need to pick up my habit in updating my blog. In a blink of an eye, Chester is already 4 months old. He has grown so much and he will smile and sometimes giggle when we show him our silly faces. Haley has been a great sister who loves to kiss and hug her little brother. She's always the first one to respond to Chester's cry. She's willing to share her toys, even her favorite snacks with him. I am blessed to have them in my life.
I have joined the women's morning class at Bible Study Fellowship (www.bsfinternational.org) in Fremont for a couple of months. It's been a great learning experience for me. I've learned a lot and getting back closer to God. BSF involved daily home study, group discussion, lectures and notes review. I'm the kind of people who need more guidance and discipline in doing things. It's quite intense at the beginning, but once I pick up the pace, I enjoy every aspects of it.
Motherhood has been a continuing challenge for me everyday. I've always asked for family and friends' opinions and advices perhaps I should lean to God for help and comfort. I feel helpless, stressed, exhausted, and vulnerable at times, but God is good to me, He gave me encouragement when I needed. I wish I can continue to seek wisdom and get more patient through the learning of His words with the lesson I get from BSF.
Not only I get the benefit from BSF, Haley also attends their children's program where she can hear bible stories, sing the hymns and get to know God as well. She enjoys the sessions and she always shows me a big smile when I pick her up. She told me that she is happy and wants to go back.
We are studying the book of Isaiah. I am blessed that it is a close location for me to attend BSF. It's not easy to get the kids ready and get out of the house that early, but I think it's well worth it. Praise the Lord! God has help me in managing my time to finish the homework as well as taking care of my two kiddies.
I have joined the women's morning class at Bible Study Fellowship (www.bsfinternational.org) in Fremont for a couple of months. It's been a great learning experience for me. I've learned a lot and getting back closer to God. BSF involved daily home study, group discussion, lectures and notes review. I'm the kind of people who need more guidance and discipline in doing things. It's quite intense at the beginning, but once I pick up the pace, I enjoy every aspects of it.
Motherhood has been a continuing challenge for me everyday. I've always asked for family and friends' opinions and advices perhaps I should lean to God for help and comfort. I feel helpless, stressed, exhausted, and vulnerable at times, but God is good to me, He gave me encouragement when I needed. I wish I can continue to seek wisdom and get more patient through the learning of His words with the lesson I get from BSF.
Not only I get the benefit from BSF, Haley also attends their children's program where she can hear bible stories, sing the hymns and get to know God as well. She enjoys the sessions and she always shows me a big smile when I pick her up. She told me that she is happy and wants to go back.
We are studying the book of Isaiah. I am blessed that it is a close location for me to attend BSF. It's not easy to get the kids ready and get out of the house that early, but I think it's well worth it. Praise the Lord! God has help me in managing my time to finish the homework as well as taking care of my two kiddies.
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Monday, March 7, 2011
Haley & Chester
Haley's special way to swing Chester
Haley shows Chester how to play at the activity station
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